The Bar Was Too Low? Ladies, Please!

 

A screen grab of the bar was to low conversation trending on TikTok.  Photo/TNX Africa

Alright, my people, gather around because the ladies have done it again. TikTok is currently on fire with the latest trend called "The Bar Was Too Low." This challenge hilariously highlights the shocking (and sometimes tragic) lengths women have gone to just to keep a man. And let me tell you, the stories range from mildly questionable to outright insanity.

I’ve seen clips of women confessing to donating a kidney to their mother-in-law, just so they could be “wife material.” Others talk about staying in relationships where their partner treated them worse than an expired loaf of bread. Some even tolerated blatant cheating, disrespect, and the infamous “he’ll change” syndrome. Ladies, please! If suffering was a sport, some of you would have Olympic gold medals.

But hold on. Aren’t these the same ladies who have sky-high standards for men? The ones who expect six-figure salaries, six-pack abs, and a six-bedroom house before considering a guy? So what’s the truth here? Either some of y’all have been scammed emotionally, or men are just elite manipulators. Or… dare I say it… maybe your bar was never low, but rather your eyesight?

The Silent Victims: Men in Love

A wise person once said, "Until the lion learns to write, the hunter will always be glorified." And this TikTok trend, my friends, is just another example. Women are here telling their sob stories, but men? Oh, we’ve been through worse. If men participated in this challenge, I promise you, the internet would crash. Ladies, you don’t even know the half of it.

See, unlike women, men suffer in silence. We don’t air our heartbreaks like laundry on social media. But trust me, whatever "low bar" you’re talking about, we have seen lower. In fact, some men didn’t even have a bar to begin with—just pure desperation and the illusion of love. We’ve been used, ignored, financially drained, emotionally blackmailed, and, worst of all, friend-zoned into oblivion. Some of us have been told, "You're such a great guy; any girl would be lucky to have you." Meanwhile, she’s off dating a man who treats her like an unpaid intern.

Yet here we are, still loyal, still hopeful. Because we are MEN. And what do we do? We dust ourselves off and try again. We don’t start trending hashtags—we just accept our fate like the true warriors we are.

The Real Question: Why Raise the Bar Now?

Ladies, let’s talk. If you once tolerated disrespect and heartbreak for another man, why are your standards suddenly hitting Mount Everest when it comes to us? Is it that you've "learned your worth," or did you just wake up and decide to make the next guy pay for the sins of the last?

Look, I get it. Growth is important. But some of you have gone from "I'll do anything for my man" to "He must earn six figures, have a yacht, and write me poetry daily." Sis, let’s be serious.

The problem isn’t that the bar was too low. The problem is that some of you were, let’s just say, “dickmatized.” Yes, I said it. Let’s not act like we don’t know. That’s why, despite all the disrespect, some of you stayed. It wasn’t love—it was the pipe that had you hypnotized.

And let me tell you, some men know this. They know their way around a woman’s emotional weak spots like a GPS. That’s why some guys get away with doing the absolute bare minimum, while others have to perform financial gymnastics just to get a text back.

To My Fellow Men: Stay Woke

Gentlemen, let’s have a quick reality check. If you’re out here bending over backwards, writing Shakespearean love letters, and still getting played, STOP. Some of y’all are out here simping so hard you could qualify for a Nobel Prize in "Doing the Most."

If history has taught us anything, it’s that some women will turn around and make you the villain in their TikTok story, even after you gave them the world. So, before you drain your life savings trying to impress someone who still texts her ex, take a deep breath and rethink your life choices.

Final Thoughts: Shape Up or Shape Out

Ladies, the truth is, if you let yourself get played in the past, don’t punish the next guy for it. That’s not healing—that’s transferring trauma. And to my brothers, let’s stop allowing ourselves to be victims in silence. Raise your own standards too.

And please, for the love of common sense, let’s all agree on one thing: TikTok trends should never be the blueprint for our dating lives.

Now, let me go mind my business before this post lands me in trouble.

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About the Author

Felix Kinyua is a seasoned freelance journalist with a degree in Mass Communication and Media and a Master’s in Public Policy and Administration. With a sharp eye for storytelling and a deep understanding of societal dynamics, Felix blends humor, satire, and insightful commentary to spark engaging discussions on contemporary issues.

Whether dissecting viral trends, analyzing public discourse, or calling out double standards, Felix writes with a mix of wit and wisdom that keeps readers entertained while making them think. Beyond journalism, he is also an expert in strategic communications, multimedia content creation, and digital marketing, helping brands and personalities refine their narratives in an ever-evolving media landscape.

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